Author: Volker Ballueder

Diamond Cutter – revisited

I was away all week to start my new job which I really like. It is a great challenge but exactly what I wanted.

Now, revisiting the Diamond Cutter I was talking about before, I would like to give an example of “Business Problem #2” – Capital investment tend to become quickly outmoded or unreliable….

Why – because the basic functions of my new Blackberry are working fine whilst I try to install some tools and they just do not seem to be working. And I do not know why.

The answer to problem #2 is: Stop being envious…concentrate on making your own company innovative….and don’t be unhappy about the success of others.

Can I apply that to my device and my attitude? I sure can! As with so many things, the basics are working, it is good for business but I want more. Would I be more efficient, better, more reliable, do a better job? No, I would not. Full stop.

We should not look at others all the time. One of the Christian main 10 rules say “do not envy your neighbour” – get on with your own stuff and make sure you are getting your work done. Once that is done, just relax and look at the fun you can have with it. Maybe, with a relaxed mind, the solution why your device is not working, becomes even clearer……

Have a good weekend. And apologies for not writing a lot at the moment.

Change – and the Generation Gap

This Sunday Morning is miserable. Not easy to convince myself to go jogging but I need to and of course I want to ,-) So I will.

Let us talk about change. In October I got married and tomorrow I start my new job. That is a lot of change. According to “Holmes and Rahe, Scaling of life Change”, published in 1971 in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research – Marriage ranks with a scale value of 50 and change of work around 36 out of 100 (which is Death of Spouse). My old manager said the other day that he went to a conference that showed that people those days are going through 9 jobs in their first 10 years of working whilst his generation (he is about 40) is having 3 or 4 jobs in the same time. So maybe the scaling changed over the last 30 years.

But, change of jobs and getting married are not necessarily bad things, just the opposite. It is about the perception you have for change. I often talked about the “motivation towards to and away from”. E.g. if you change jobs because you were fired then your perception of change and the stress it causes is much higher. The opposite is true for a wedding. If you are looking forward to it and things are going well, the stress related to it is “positive stress” which is easier to cope with.

Then again, “positive stress” has the same physical impact on the body, e.g. increased heart rate, however it shows that if someone is very positive about a change then it is easier to cope with the “side effects”. Research suggests if you have a loved one that dies suddenly and unexpected, the effects on the sudden change are greater than if you know the person had a terminal illness and you see that person die. However, it would never change the grief and loss, it might just be easier to cope with the moment itself.

Whilst writing here I scan through the magazine “Personal Success” published by the Coaching Academy, and my eye caught an article about motivation of young people at the workplace. It seems that the “Matures (age over 62)” and “Baby Boomer (43-61)” are in charge of the “Generation X (28-42)” and Millennials (27 and under)”. The X-ers and Millennials do not necessarily see “hard work and loyalty, achieving a rank” as their primary goals for work. That just perfectly fits in with what I said earlier about changing jobs and taking longer to settle in the one that seems right. The one that gives someone freedom and room for personal development, “me time“.

The article points out that the younger generation have a lot of respect for their managers and their leadership and that they need to have the right “feel for the job” – if they do not feel that the job or manager are right, then they are not going to stay long in the job. Loyalty must be earned by good managers but once that has been done, one surely gets that commitment back from the younger generation. The change from management to coach? How can my boss guide me to where I would like to be?

All this and more details are published by Cam Marston “Motivating the “What’s in it for me?” Workforce”.

imprint or anchoring

When I was graduating from Highschool pretty much 10 years ago I used to play Doppelkopf, a German card game, on a regular basis.

Now, for some reason, I decided to download a computer programme of Doppelkopf and enjoy playing it. What I find interesting that certain ways of playing it still trigger a behaviour in me. Certain ways of playing, me winning a set or the other player not playing right, still get me to shout out some phrases as if these people were real or I was still playing with my old mates.

Before you think I am crazy: those imprints in my mind, the anchoring of certain behaviour that gets triggered by a way a situation is played are fascinating. It is great to see that it works, ergo you can use it to trigger a positive behaviour in the future by creating anchors or imprints now.

Just another proof that NLP works ,-)

Germany and the past…highly political

Germany’s former foreign Minister, Joschka Fischer, wrote a book about his time as a minister. I read part of it this morning on the train and he spoke of the German debts due to the 2nd world war.

Surely that is a highly political topic but I was reminded about my post last night, saying that the past is not influencing your now. I suppose this can be very tricky in politics.

However, before someone misunderstands me, I think the past, particular the 2nd world war, should influence our acting as a German nation in the now. We must adopt the mistakes, learn from them and act better in the now. If I do say, and if I did not mistake Kolle, “do not act on the past in the now” it does not mean not to learn from it but in the now we should try to make decisions based on the current situation BUT bearing in mind the past of course. Again this seems more true with things like the German history.

As I am not a historian nor a politician I just wanted to make people aware not to take things for granted and say “forget your past and act now” – as you can see the example above, there is no way you can apply that to every situation.

The Power of Now

Looking further into my essay I saw Tolle’s book “The Power of Now” which does cover the topic of focusing on the now, the actual day, “carpe diem” so to speak, instead of focusing on either past or future.

Many many people seem to use the past as an excuse for what is happening in the now and excusing themselves about things that might happen in the future.

Without going into much detail it seems that we can only enlighten ourselves if we do focus on what is happening just precise this moment. This very second or Milli-second. Why bother about what has happened. Too many theories in my opinion focus on the idea of the past influencing our lives – time line therapy to cure what has happened? I used to live in the past quite a lot myself and found my personal way of living in the now.

However, looking at myself, I live in the future too. Aspirations, goals, wants and needs. Salary expectations, new job and family – often I think “what if I reached my dream income of lets say 100K?” – to be honest, if I ever achieve it, then I would want 200K and so forth. Death is definite, it puts an end to it all, doesn’t it? Maybe it doesn’t but then we move away from the now. We talk about that another time.

But yes, if we stop worrying about what might be and what we achieve and what might happen, we might start living in the now and focus on what is important at the moment. Because only that counts and really works in favour or disadvantage of the future. But please do not forget to think about the future, set goals etc. – but do not be too fixed with it and do not let them influence your now.

And, if you have issues from your past that influence your now, then let it go, use therapy and live your life – I had almost written “as if it would be your last day”. Not sure, maybe we should but do not exaggerate. There might be a tomorrow ,-)

Good night.

Perception – or what you like to see, feel or hear

Today’s post has nothing to do with a great revelation. It is purely that I was picking up on something and thought I express my thoughts here about people’s perception.

Everyone knows if people think that all “green tomatoes” are sour then there will never be a person that is actually saying “Yes, I try a green tomato because it might not be sour.” – therefore, there is the proof, all green tomatoes are sour. (For the NLP people I highlighted a few words in the last sentence.)

Now, we can take this into any context – racial discrimination would be most classical example. I am a member of a German fraternity – some of which are more political orientated whilst others are more religious orientated, whilst my group, the Corps, are very tolerant and personal development orientated.

With this example there are two ways you can approach any fraternity student, either as being religious or political involved. Which one would be the right one? As all tomatoes are green or in this case yellow, it must be one of the two. However, the simple example of prejudice and perception shows that there are more than yellow and green tomatoes out there and that those tomatoes, although being green or yellow could be of different taste, e.g. a religious orientated fraternity might be more catholic or more protestant orientated. And, it shows that my fraternity group is actually in the group of the red tomatoes, neither yellow or green, and that that there is no pattern you can apply to any of those colours/groups.

The reason for my thoughts today is that there are still “friends” out there that from my perspective and perception seem to look for a certain colour of tomato. And I find that, living in London where you find more than red, green and yellow tomatoes, this is a very wrong thing to do. I was discussing with a friend yesterday that it is a shame for people to see things just for the sake of “wanting to see things”. Having blinkers that just do not allow any lateral thinking or viewing of things.

So, before I get into a Sunday preaching mood I better let you go with those thoughts and my best wishes for you to try and stop at the next yellow tomato to find out whether it is sour. You might be positively surprised!

Personal Note

Dear Readers,

My apologies for not being more consistent in writing at the moment. Of course there are reasons to it.

Firstly, I do have little time. CB Consulting is my “private hobby/job”, meaning I have a main job for a living. Latter is about to change and in 1 weeks time. That is all exciting but also keeps me quite busy to get up to speed with things and sorting out my life.

However, I have not forgotten. I actually got in touch with a spiritual teacher so to speak. I have not called him yet but we emailed a few times and we touch base next week. This is very exciting as I hope to find more of myself and also hope for more input for the essay too. But, and what do Buddhist say, do what you think feels right – so I also want to learn to be better for others.

As you can see I am not lazy, I am honestly busy. Also had a great chance to catch up with a lot of friends this week.

Then, I think I mentioned that I read David Meerman Scott “The New Rules of Marketing and PR” – I have pretty much finished the book and I love it. Shows me why I love the industry of Online and Digital Marketing so much.

David (his blog is http://www.webinknow.com/) has a lot of tips I want to look at in order to push the profile of my blog. One of course is for me to write on other blogs – again that takes time but I promise it will happen.

– Blog Search Engine: http://www.technorati.com/ – I joined them today.
www.feedblitz.com – the name reminds me of my German history. I asked for email reminders for my blog and see what happens. Need to explore that tool more.
www.squidoo.com – not really sure if I want to subscribe to that. But I have to say, David really knows the web. Wonder if some pages just never made it across the pond ,-)

I guess that would be it for this Saturday morning. As my wife is not working this weekend I promised to spend some time with her.

Have a good weekend everyone and I surely will be back shortly.

Synopsis

I decided that I might start an essay and thought of an outline of the whole – below the synopsis, the summary of what the essay might contain.

This essay will deal with a theory that everything one does in his/her life will have an effect on one’s life.
While this is a bold statement, there is more to it than just coming up with a basic idea but also to develop a model, bringing several theories together.

After a short introduction of the thesis and the assumptions that have to be made in order to make sense of the analogy and model, there will be an introduction of the underlying theories. Those are foremost Buddhist principles; using those principles and the understanding of Buddhism and the effects of imprints, one uses Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) to actually effectively model those principles to use them in a business context. The basic mechanical equations used to undermine the model are also introduced.

The thesis will then be outlined and with a combination of the above principles, new ideas and models will be formed to show how “business and spirituality” can work together in a profitable way. Limitations will be shown and the use of creativity to possibly better understand the model or even show a deeper understanding of using the thesis in a daily sense.

In the end there will be a conclusion of the application of the model and the way it will be possible to apply them in business; also a discussion will show how helpful the model really is and if anyone would be able to use it.

In order to understand the theory the reader is not obliged to be a believer in Buddhism nor have a deeper understanding of either Buddhism or NLP. However, a certain open mindedness for both ideas will be helpful to understand the thesis and apply it to business and maybe other “every day life” situations.

Without going into detail about other religions there is a chance that the discussed Buddhist principles are common in other religions. Buddhism is used as an example because the author was firstly introduced to the principles in this culture. None of this essay is in any way meant to be discriminated against any religion or belief.

essay

After the last entry I was wondering if anyone reading my blog has had some experience in the energy field and if someone would be able to help me getting a sensible outline for an essay.

Although I am not sure whether I will have time to write an essay on it, it might be worthwhile starting one and publishing abstracts here.

A friend said he tried modelling an energy system based on Buddhist and non-Buddhist thoughts but with little success. However, I was wondering if one could simplify a model and outline an essay as follows:

  • energy systems in general
  • including influences like e.g. Hellinger, family constellation, history in general terms
  • Buddhist and other religious influential thoughts
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • developing a “basic model” for small groups
  • extending that model to business / work environments
  • finding a model that can easily be implemented to a SME or team of max. 30
  • Conclusion if applicable / field test

I am curious to hear your opinions.

Systems – Imprints

I was thinking today about making decisions: if people have hope for a positive decision from you and you disappoint them with a negative decision, would you actually create a negative imprint?

From my point of you I do not think so. I mean it obviously depends on how you break the news and how you think people will react to it. If I understand the system right, the one I believe in, then the other person should actually be very happy for you and wish you all the best.

Whilst that happens in most cases that people accept decisions and that people will allow you to decide against what they like, they see beyond and see that the person decides for something else, seeking happiness for the person.

Would that not mean for the person making a decision that they create a positive imprint by accepting one direction whilst creating a more negative, if not negative impression, by deciding against another direction.

Either way, the amount of “negative” can be influenced on how to break the news. Lets use an example:

Your 2 friends A and B ask you to do something with them over the weekend.

You decide to go to the football with A and create a positive imprint talking to him and making him very anxious about the upcoming event. (N.B. if you then cancel last minute due to reasons A would not understand then you would create a negative imprint.)

B will be disappointed if you break the news saying “I will go and watch the football with A”. However, you can create a more positive imprint by suggesting “you want to join” or “why don’t we arrange something for next weekend” or something along those lines. It is up to you on how well you break the news to B. What about “I go to the football with A because I like him/her more”. That would hurt and, even if true, would be unnecessary and create a negative imprint.

NLP differentiates between Conflicts and Dilemmas for decisions (examples from John McWhirter, Sensory Systems Glasgow):

a) Conflict: short term decision on either continuing what you do or stop doing what you do; e.g. if you are having a good time you could continue to do so and will develop on something different. Whilst on the other hand you could stop having a good time and go home, e.g. going to a safe place. Then you make that decision again.

b) Dilemma: if you have a good time and look for a long term decision you can ask for the benefits until both sides agree what is better (sum of imprints zero) and then make a decision on either one way (yes) or another (no). You will still continue to have a good time but in “one way or another”.

To sum it up, we have to make decisions in life and will always create positive and negative imprints doing so. But through the way we make decisions, break news or even decide we can arrange for the imprints to be more or less positive/negative and influence our consequences from it.