Life of a Family Man

After 10 years of regular columns, I am now back to more regular personal updates and personal development advice. I work as an executive and productivity coach, mindfulness trainer, consultant, and host a podcast. Whilst I have published a productivity book already, I launched my 2nd book on Success in 2019. Feel free to follow the links on the left-hand side, or reach out to me directly!

Weekender Issue….

Hello All, Not many people read this blog at the moment. Think I need to write more about myself. If I moved this blog to Facebook probably the whole nation is interested…. Back to the main purpose of this blog: it is purely to cover some ground on NLP topics, coaching and philosophical ideas. Things we can change and how we can change it. What – What is it you want to change?How – How is it really affecting you?Why – Why do you really want to change how it is affecting you? This goes beyond the usual “textbook” – we look into deeper understanding of the mind. Often I think that looking beyond certain reasoning and beyond people’s motivation I find a psychological problem. Or are all those problems just human and not problems at all. Meeting so many different people lately being away in Germany it seems as if a whole nation has inherited behaviour. Is that possible? If so – will it ever change? Without wanting to sound prejudice but obvioulsy the older generation in Germany grew up with the stigma them being evil and having to apologies for the 2nd world war. The younger generation partly

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Coaching Forms

Another weekend. I talked to a good friend throughout the week who introduced me to a coaching form. A collection of questions to fulfil certain tasks in order to achieve – happiness? Whatever one wants to achieve one can set stepping-stones for oneself. But of course there are a lot of forms out there and not all stepping-stones are suitable for everyone. This form had 100 maximum points and I was devastated only getting 11 out of it. Talking to my friend he says that I did better than him and most people, however, he only aims for 60 as not everything is applicable. It reminds me of this study they did in Stanford I believe where 50% of the graduate had to write down their goals in life and the other 50% did not. The ones that clearly defined their goals did achieve them and performed better than the control group on their overall career path. Why? Because if one defines his goal one likes to achieve it, then one is committed and will be working towards it (common sense). One makes (almost) anything happen to achieve the so wanted outcome. This can be monetary, learning a language, reading

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Motivation

I almost forgot. My friend Mitch from the US sent me a couple of links I am sure he does not mind me publishing them here. They are all about motivation. http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog/2007/04/01/some-positive-motivational-video-links/ I have not watched the Secret one but wait for the DVD to arrived. This one is a favourite of mine: FACING THE GIANTS Find out more about Mitch on his homepage and blog! http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.comhttp://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog cb consulting – enhancing performance from within

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Weekend Note

Dear Reader, It seems to be on Sundays when I have some time. Maybe not loads but I was away again all week and only now finished the book “Memories, Dreams, Reflection” by Jung. On page 369 he writes “Hence I prefer the term “the unconscious”, knowing that I might equally well speak of “God” or “daimon” if I wished to express myself in mythic language. When I do use such mythic language, I am aware that “mana”, “daimon”, and “God” are synonyms for the unconscious – that is to say, we know just as much or just as little about them as about the latter. People only believe they know much more about them ….” – he describes the advantages of calling the unconscious God/daimon by getting a better objectification or personification. If the common unconscious, the overall knowledge of the world, is resembled in terms like God or mana, would that mean that we represent our knowledge just in different ways but as long as we believe in the theory of someone watching over it or someone keeping it we are safe. Then we believe in one way or another that the knowledge is kept and accessible for

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Train your brain 8/9 and 9/9

Hello, Now the last chapter of Harry Alder’s book “Train your brain”. I embedded a list at Amazon of all the great Harry Alder self-help books. Let us start with chapter 9: Three Week Peak Performance Plan – that is all, just read the chapter if you want to go on the 21 day exercise. Before that, read chapter 8: Techniques to Train your brain Balloon Diagrams – they are forerunners to mindmaps and allow you to represent your thoughts in a graphical way Brainstorming – you should be familiar with that and don’t forget the most important rule not to interrupt anyone else or ridicule someone else’s thought/idea Brainwriting – graphically as Brainsketching (one puts ideas on a board graphically, same rules as at Brainstorming applies) or as Brainwriting Pool (one writes 4 ideas on a piece of paper and shares them in the middle, same rules as at Brainstorming again) Chunking – you take a word/problem and chunk it down or up The Concept Fan – you work your ideas backwards; it reminds me of DBM where you e.g. ask yourself “I like to drive a car” – What kind of car you like to drive? How do

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Train your Brain 6/9 and 7/9

Making your own luck Alder talks about Serendipity – a word I had to look up to be honest. It is about noticing the unnoticeable. About having experience in different fields and ambiguity to find a new way of doing things. Question anything unusual. And, come up with the great idea on how to make life more worthwhile or earn millions of pounds. Whatever might be your goal? Getting into a creative state of mind Without wanting to rush, chapter 6 was only a few pages but great examples! Now, back to creativity. Change your self-belief and stimulate your mind. You need to relax, to might want to bounce ideas off other people’s thought/ideas, you like to talk about a problem, draw or write it down…. – do a self-appraisal and find out when you did what and why you were creative. You might have to change your current situation or routine to get into the state of mind you really want. Alder offers help on “changing a belief”. Identify the disempowering belief Decide on an empowering replacement belief Choose three supportive behaviours Mentally rehearse your new behaviours Alder then offers more help on changing beliefs, behaviour, relaxation and refers

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There are only 9 chapters not 21

Feel a little stupid. I summarize the chapters of Alders book and realise there are only 9 chapters. His programme is over 21 days at the end of the book, ergo you really would need to buy it to get the most of it. However, the chapter summaries and techniques and thoughts are here. Anyone buys me that T-Shirt?! cb consulting – enhancing performance from within

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Train your brain 5/9

I hope I do not bore the audience but Alder has really valid points in his book. Whilst some think it is nothing new and more of a guru talk I really think that Alder has a nice guideline into everyday life with things that really work. The next chapter is about: Turning Stress into Success The first headline is that people perform better under stress up to a level they cannot cope. This of course is a different level for each individual. So, how do we turn pressure into peak performance? And, please do not confuse pressure and stress, as pressure is something you definitely want to get rid of. I remember a good friend saying “my stress is all positive stress” – sure, if you start re-framing it (NLP technique), surely it can work as a motivator rather than limiting you. Who does not know those days in the office where you really need to get things done? You create pressure on yourself, artificial stress, and just work your things off to go home at 5. Human flight and fight response I suppose. Harry Alder has a great graph on the level of pressure in his book. I

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Train your brain 3/9 and 4/9

We moving quickly: Two-Sided Thinking In this chapter it is all about the left brain (convergent thinking) and right brain (divergent thinking). Convergent looking for a single solution, divergent opens up possibilities. There is vertical and lateral thinking. Is the latter one “out of the box” thinking? de Bono wrote an interesting book about lateral thinking. This chapter I found quite poor, touching on thinking processes, feelings and thinking spectrum. Nothing new that we have two sides of the brain that work differently and can be used for different purposes. Supposedly the right side is less used and one can train brain activity for creativity. When I studied I had my desk, wall and room cluttered with so many different coloured things, sparking my brain with new inputs all the time. That worked really well for me. I tried finding a picture but did not. A shame….(maybe better ,-)) Live Changing Lessons In Creativity This chapter talks about intuition and that you take a break in order to re-cap things and think them over again. It suggest after GIGO (garbage in – garbage out) to really get involved in different things. Extend your hobbies, interests and develop a richer lifestyle.

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