Sunday Column (224)

This week I know more about what I don’t want to write about than what I am keen on discussing. To be honest, I am a bit fed up of job searches, and job finding. This week was a highlight in some decision making but I will cover that in greater depth hopefully soon. I guess the frustrating bit, and the ultimate roller coaster ride, is that you get verbal offers, promises and then silence for weeks which then result in you not knowing whether things move forward or not; on the other hand you get new opportunities popping up but don’t really want to waste anyone’s time thinking the verbal offer comes through. I guess I need to be more ruthless but never mind. I am the nice guy, right?

nice guy

Hence the real highlight last week was life itself! Colin is probably the sweetest boy on earth. Whiny but great at 4 years old who slowly discovers the world. I am trying to explain things to him but his attention span is too short. He loves the books he got for his birthday telling him all about how the body works and what blood, bones and muscles are. It is great to see him sucking up that knowledge like a sponge and explaining it back to you. His questions are very analytical and a great joy to me is when he asks what a certain word is in German. Hard work and persistence seems to pay off.

Rohan on the other hand seems to develop two skills recently. One is more talking and making himself heard and understood, the other is to start listening what we tell him. It is a slow process but we seem to win. One shout at a time. On top of that we moved his bed into Colin’s room, trying to get him to sleep through the night. That didn’t work so that he is back in his own room with a stair gate. Slow progress but progress.

Then I went for a cycle with a friend on Tuesday night on top of the South Downs. An amazing ride of 2 hours in a fantastic sunset. Moving to the country side was the best thing we have ever done. Whilst I agree that the commute is “me time” and sometimes is taking forever, restrictive to stay out late in London – cycle rides like these or Jen being able to take the kids down to the beach for an afternoon are making up for that many times over. I guess with the change of lifestyle my attitude has changed.

I can see that in my job hunt too. Yes, I am still very career oriented but maybe a little more risk averse than I used to be and prefer a good job working for people that know what they are doing rather than people not knowing what they are doing if that makes sense. Whilst money, particularly with the travel card each month, is still key, the title or function is less an issue than a great job for a good company that pays what I need as long as I maybe have less to worry at evenings and weekends. Surely I am going to work my butt off nevertheless. I am just the workaholic, right? When the kids are older, 3-5 years down the line, I can still do a job which might involve more international travel, more responsibility and more time from me away from home. I am only 36 after all….maybe I am just in a midlife crisis, who knows 😉

mid-life-crisis

I also managed to finish my first draft of my book on personal development which I have put together over the last 6 weeks. Now I still got to add some drawings, get my wife to proofread it before publishing it. This is very exciting for me and I am proud to have almost completed this project.

On Wednesday I finally became a Rotary member. It has been a long time coming yet with the job situation I had postponed the decision until the end of the Rotary year (end of June). It is good to get involved in a new venture helping others to succeed, develop and to make this world a better place. It is about ethical values, servicing others (SERVICE ABOVE SELF) above and beyond the standard.

An eventful week overall! A good week really! Oma and Opa came to visit over the weekend which again gave much joy to the kids and of course to us. More cheap wine and good chats. A Saturday out in town at the beer festival with the wife. I sometimes wish we had family closer by. And my MIL and her partner came to visit as they had a 7 hour stop over in London on their way back from holidays. The kids were delighted.

But you have to decide in life what you want. Sometimes taking a step back, evaluating whilst moving forward later is not a bad thing. Putting life in perspective is important and sometimes things just don’t happen overnight. Family might take a priority over a job and vice versa at a different stage in life. I guess that is what makes life so exciting yet not easier.

So have a great week. Fingers crossed for some results!

Volker