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An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind. Buddha
You notice the slight but essential differentiation.
A beast or animal might hurt your body. It might rip off an arm.
But an evil friend, an evil human being, might actually wound your mind. S/he might hurt you deep inside, kill parts of your thoughts and freedom.
As they say: keep your friends close but your enemies closer.
This week I finished Kofi Annan’s autobiography. One of the closing sentences were ‘A Swahili proverb holds that “You cannot turn the wind, so turn the sail”‘. I like and dislike this quote.
On the one hand the proverb tries to tell me that if the wind is blowing in one direction, there is nothing we can do. On the other hand it says to change direction to make use of the wind. Then again it tells me, whatever the wind, just go with the flow, don’t go against it. Do you see where I am coming from?
I like to go with the flow. Enjoy having my sail in the wind and make progress. That’s fun and easy even. I also like to go against the wind. Stir things up, question rules and challenge people. I cannot just turn around and go with the wind. Not my style. Of course wind can never always blow in your sail, so sometimes you go through rough or unpleasant rides. Way of life. Am I missing something the proverb wants to tell me? Do I look too deep into it?
Anyway. Annan’s book was good. A good summary of his work and thoughts, challenges and successes. However, it seemed written a bit in a politically rather than personal manner. Guess that was to be expected from a man of his calibre.
Then I had an interesting conversation with a gentleman from the Brighton area who, same as me, has lived abroad for the past 13 years. And his conclusion, after all that time in Germany, was that he can’t stand the British way of life. Just like me! Only vice versa
When mentioning that to a friend from another country, I got told it is the same for her. This leads me, based on my small sample, to the following conclusion: if you voluntarily leave your country to adopt a new way of life in a different culture, there are two motivational directions:
- away from the current, soon old culture
- towards the new, soon daily culture
This leads, in my sample, to a love hate relationship with your current or old culture. I dismiss certain “German” attitudes and don’t like their way of dealing with things. However, in my case, I love the Britishness and culture here in the UK. Additionally, at least in my case, I find it nice to look back at my childhood and German values I was brought up with. This will always be home for me. But in regards to business or day to day stuff, I adopted the British culture to be “the right one”. Funny that. This would explain a lot of things
On Wednesday I attended a function, an event from a new potential hobby of mine. A group looking to help others in need, a charity if you like. It was a sit down dinner, discussion and to my surprise no alcohol. I really liked that. I attend another function next week and keep you posted on developments.
Thursday was a fun day. I got soaked going to the train station. At the train station the trains were cancelled or delayed by more than an hour. A train had broken down on the tracks just outside Hassocks. So I ended up working from home, getting loads of admin done, studying on the back of our sales training, exchange with the US office and general strategic stuff. I love those days. In the afternoon I popped out to get my hair cut and I spent lunch building “fire stations” with my boys. With Colin being “confined to quarters” with his chicken pox, he appreciated someone else playing with him. I ended up working much later than normal but I don’t mind that really.
However, this week was slow. Not work wise but more me feeling slow and tired. My wife has a cold and I woke up every morning with a sore throat being really tired. So some bug must have got the better of me. Nothing major, “man flu” enough but not too bad. Just this tiredness and exhaustion….but I shouldn’t moan. With feeling physically exhausted there was no running. No exercise. Just a massage on Saturday.
On top of that our fridge is about to die. We aiming to change the kitchen layout to accommodate a non build in fridge, e.g. if we were to replace the one we have with the same dimensions we pay an arm and a leg for a low quality fridge. Not a long term sensible solution. So my wish to buy a nice mountain bike might have to be pushed back for a few months until we recovered from this expense. The joys. Life
To conclude I had a fantastic weekend. I spent lots of time with the boys. Brighton, Sea Life, shopping, swimming, friends around for pizza. And I had another night out on Hassocks. It turned out to be a major piss-up so I was glad to leave when the shots were coming out.
Never mind Getting old.
Have a great week everyone.
This week was rather interesting, not to say quite busy.
As you might know by now I have left my job after only 6 months. In summary: it just didn’t work out. However, onwards and upwards. I have been in touch with a few companies over the last few weeks and continue to do so. So far we have not had to cancel Christmas, and I really enjoy the time with my boy!
On Tuesday afternoon I went to see an osteopath for my back and she cracked it well. I felt better afterwards but my muscles that are mainly used to lift heavy things, e.g. Colin, are still very weak and hurt. It also doesn’t help to sit on a too low desk I suppose. However, I go back next week to get more mobility into my back. And, they recommended me to do some exercise….I know Although, a neighbour got me to go to the gym on Saturday, and I did do some exercise, went off to the Sauna and steam room too
Wednesday was busy. I had an unexpected meeting with a good friend in the morning which resulted in possibly another job opportunity. Afterwards I met a friend for a late breakfast, another friend over lunch, having a frutti di mare pizza. Trying to abstain from meat until Friday for my weekly kebab In the afternoon I found time to catch up with a good friend before heading to a Tweet-Up.
I met two guys I met on Twitter, hence Tweet-Up, who are very much into Social Media. We met in the Albannach and tested a few whiskys that night, later being joined by another good friend. So overall that day has been very sociable, online and offline. Unfortunately one meeting had to be canceled which I hope to reschedule for next week.
I spent most of Thursday to catch up on emails and sorting out some potential part time work to tie me over to January. In theory I could start working in telemarketing for a friend in Germany as of today, but I don’t really have an office space yet. So that decision has to be made depending on a few things next week.
It is great to have a reliable network and friends who can offer and do offer you jobs. Because they know, how reliable, hard working and honest I am. So it is good to have friends and to help each other out sometimes.
What else happened this week. Whilst speaking to so many people, the nice things that I heard was a mortgage approval for friends who were seeking to buy for a while. Congratulations again, we will be neighbours soon! Then, another friend’s wife is feeling much better and might be home for Christmas, which I hope for him and his family. Fingers crossed and good luck.
We got a couple of early Christmas cards too and I realise again how strong our network of friends is. Particularly around Christmas and in these hard times. But, it is all good and we enjoy the company with our friends, and as hard as the times might seem, there are still people out there that are much worse off that us. We should not forget about them!
On Sunday we had an excellent breakfast with our friends and Colin’s god-father. “Il Coskino” and his wife were over for a cooked breakfast where I had some bacon, and a sausage. But that should be all for the meat for a while. Back to veggies and fish.
Have a fantastic week, not long to Christmas now!
Oh dear, this is bank holiday weekend. I was off on Friday and I have to say, getting the chance to catch up on some sleep, and on some things I wanted to do for a while, was great. Luckily I finished the polishing of the furniture during the week…. so Friday was all mine. I managed a total of 2 hours in the afternoon to sleep after I spend most of the morning shopping and writing for my blog.
We finished, or my wife did, painting the living room. The carpet is removed, the furniture polished and you might spot our 32 inch TV in the back – it saves so much space.
From work we support the campaign (which we also created by the way) for Tacheback and research into prostate and testicular cancer! Hence, I will grow a moustache during September….
So please donate on the site and I keep you posted on my Twitter and Facebook feed anyway.
Having said all that, there wasn’t much else going on this week. Colin is growing and is already above the 95 percentile, over 7 kilos. He smiles a lot but cries a lot too. He slept 8 hours the other day, so fingers crossed, sleeping pattern will go back to normal.
On Monday I said good-bye to a good friend I have known for 6 years and she is now going back to Berlin. However, I am certain she will be back in London sometime soon. Good luck, sure you be fine, we are going to miss you.
The dentist who I visited Friday is happy with my teeth but I decided to get a bite-guard, so that I don’t grind my teeth at night (and don’t bite the wife either ). I kept doing that for a while (the grinding) and stopped but now I am doing it again. Might just be the lack of sleep and all the things I am thinking about. So thought it was a good investment, and by getting it done privately (as supposed to through the NHS), it cost me much less than the NHS would ask for, e.g. £198 Sometimes I miss the great German healthcare system. Never mind, I cope ….
On Saturday we were babysitting our neighbours child and this was the first test if we are ready for a 2nd child. I personally think that we should hold of for a while as I think with my work and career ambitions that 1 child is enough to take care of….I guess I keep you posted on this one But practise never harms
I also got a lot of clearing out done. Not only did I clear the kitchen cupboard and we gave a lot of things to charity but I also shredded lots of old German documents I didn’t need any more. Of course I had 5 photocopies of each document so our bin is full already. It is always good to de-clutter your life I find. And, it is so interesting to see what you used to keep and like. For instance my Jack Daniels Whiskey glasses were once very important to me. Now I have nice real ones from Scotland, the Glencairn glass, which are much nicer
By the way Whisky, last weekend I finished my Scappa and this weekend my Talisker bottle. I still got enough choice to get me going, but even the Balblair is getting emptier Time to go up North again and have a shopping spree.
Another nice thing that happened this weekend was that I got a text from my local pizza delivery shop offering me a discount. After my blog post about local business this is great. I don’t want to claim it was because of my post but it is good to see that local business adopt good marketing strategies!
I also went for a 30 minute run this weekend too. My knee didn’t like it but since my FT wasn’t delivered I had to get my own copy and so I thought it would be a good excuse. It just shows how unfit I am. Depending on how my knee behaves I have a strong intention to go more often….
That is really it. Although we tried going away for a day, it seems that we couldn’t trust the weather, so we decided to have a lazy weekend at home. Very enjoyable.
Speak next week,
Wow. Time seems to be flying. Is it really Sunday again?
I need to re-cap my week. Monday was just a big catch up on things and sorting out schedules. Really, that was my whole day. Tuesday was an eye opening trip that made me think a lot about what to come. And, Wednesday and Thursday just flew past. Friday was great. A very enjoyable and productive day at work and my usual take away pizza – falling asleep on the sofa.
I feel like I am progressing in Tai Chi a lot and that my work life balance improves too. Why? Several reasons really. Firstly I started using a direct train from Beckenham to Farringdon. Saves me no time but the hassle of changing from tube to train which in the rush hour are heavily packed. However, it also means I leave the office 10 minutes earlier and have the feeling that I have a better cut between work and life. I don’t mind being on demand via blackberry all night anyway but with the nice weather it is great to get this flexibility, particularly since I start at 8 am anyway. So that is all good.
Secondly, my ipod gets me a lot of awesome podcasts, including innovative and managerial topics from top industry leaders. I really enjoy that. A really clever invention.
Also, which I think is the major part of my “new life” is the re-discovery of sports. Ever since I have been back to the gym on a regular 2x a week basis I feel much better. It not only gives me a “healthier” feel but also a good way of relaxing, de-stressing and calming down. That in combination with the podcasts which I listen to whilst exercising really help.
Now, on top of that we have met a lot of friends this week. Just yesterday we met with our neighbours and their almost 1 year old daughter and had a fab BBQ, a great time and lots to talk about. Today we had lunch with a great friend and had great chats. All that contributes to an almost perfect life.
I think these are my real thoughts at the moment. I am very happy. The summer is coming and all signs show that it seems to be a good year. How blessed am I?
Love and Kindness to you out there,