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Sunday Column (103)

Posted by Volker in personal, Sunday Column on February 20, 2011

It has been 10 days. 10 days since our latest addition, Rohan, came to us. And it has changed our life once again. Not only do we need a 4×4 pram, we also have another sleeping rhythm, or no sleep at all. Whilst it is not too bad for daddy, as Jen is breast feeding, I still wake up and mummy doesn’t sleep at all. The wee man is very hungry, wants milk all day and all night, so I am hopeful that he won’t look that skinny soon. However, the lack of sleep is causing strain of course.

Then we got a new gadget. A humidifier: it is nice to have more humidity in the room, use it to vaporize lavender incense, and the room seems to heat up quicker too. So all around another a nice gadget for the Ballueder family.

I have used the past couple of days to relax. But unfortunately there has been some work I needed to do, and get out of the way. Some things cannot be left alone. I also tried to get on top of my private todo list and worked on some productivity decks, some theories and tried to catch up with reading. But I got far less done than anticipated.

However, the main focus is around Rohan. Of course we don’t neglect his brother, but Rohan has the main priority. Every time I look at him, I must think of the movie “Benjamin Button”. Not only is Rohan a lot skinnier than his brother was, he also looks very old. Like an old man. When I look into his eyes I wonder how many years he has been here. Maybe just a Buddhist dream to think where his mind might have come from? He looks experienced. Knowledgable. As if he has lived many lives before. That cannot be as the body is new but I wonder where he is coming from. And where he is going to, of course.

But he also gives daddy a new challenge: time. I have been saying once RW is here, I go back to the gym, work less hours and help my wife. At least at the beginning. Will I keep it? Maybe not. I need to find a place and time to work on myself, both physically but also mentally. But I also want to find the time to spend with the boys. This is often before I go to work with Colin, but with Rohan it will be easier at the beginning to see him at night. Once he gets older, there is the greater challenge.

Hence my plan is to integrate my gym sessions into my working hours. I could have done that previously but never really thought I find the time or the space. But with new staff and another reason to stay fit, I think it is time to do that now. It will also increase productivity. So that is on my agenda.

I also would like to use the commute more effectively in terms or reading, brain storming and working on my self development goals.

These are the first 2 steps of some more serious long-term goals. Easy steps, baby steps and stepping stoned. Exercise and breaks at work and more productivity on the commute.

Whilst of course this isn’t all triggered by the newest addition, RW give me another great motivation to get going.

I am back at work this week Wednesday, so the quiet times are over.

Love and Kindness,
Volker

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Turn your dreams into reality

Posted by Volker in cb consulting, coaching, NLP on May 13, 2009

If there is a dream, there is reality!

But let’s start at the beginning: Coaching is based on 3 supports.

1) Beliefs – challenge your limiting beliefs and reinforce supportive/positive ones!
2) Values – know your values and live them.
3) Goals – what do you want to achieve and how do you want to achieve it?

People say that goals are dreams with legs – they go somewhere. Or, you can put it differently, if you are dreaming to achieve something, then you can support this dream with actions and turn this dream into a reality, a goal. This goal becomes achievable when you are putting your efforts and beliefs behind it.

Coaching is based around goals. We all start in the here and now and have a reality check of our current life. What is our present state and what do we like or dislike about our current life. This could be the job, the love life, the amount of exercise we do etc. Check for the wheel of life to identify what you might want to change.

From there you define your goals and the desired state. This state is now your aim, your goal, something you need to put your mind to. As we say in NLP, now imagine you are already at your desired state and look back to your present state, how did you get there?

That might sound complicated, but if you want to cross a river, you can either think of building a bridge or you can imagine that you already crossed the river and look at the problem from the other side. You might discover a new way across, something you cannot see from your current perspective.

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NLP uses that technique quite a lot. Put yourself in the corner of the room and watch yourself having this conversation or interview and evaluate yourself whilst doing so. Also, you can then watch the reaction of your opposite conversation partner and act / amend your conversation accordingly. This enables you to build stronger rapport and more effective conversations, communications and connections.

In regards to goal setting, always set positive goals. Move towards a positive goal rather than away from something negative. You don’t want to loose weight, as you focus on the weight. Focus on the healthy aspect and formulate your goal “I want to be fit and healthy”.

Also, be specific about your goals. That means it has to be measurable and reward yourself by achieving part of the goal. stepping stones are important. These stepping stones will provide you with the right feedback and you can see whether you are on track for your big goal.

And, whilst pursuing any dream, any goal, any stepping stone, think of the 3 coaching supports. Be true to your beliefs and values. Be cautious what some actions might mean to you and your environment. What costs are involved, what time etc.

By making an action plan and making sure that you have a can-do approach, you eventually will achieve your goals. If you need help defining them or setting stepping stones to reach your goals and turn your dreams into reality, please give Coach Volker a call.

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