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Just as a candle cannot burn without fire, men cannot live without a spiritual life. Buddha
Buddha tries to make a point here.
A candle cannot burn without fire. It needs the fire to melt, to exist as a candle. Similar to the fire needing oxygen.
Men cannot live without a spiritual life. We need something to believe in. We need to look inside ourselves and understand our mind. We need something spiritual to fully comprehend life.
If you didn’t understand that, keep practicing. You will soon see the benefits of a spiritual practice.
Best of luck,
Another fantastic week is behind me. Why fantastic?
It was my birthday! If you haven’t congratulated me, you better do so now Just kidding, actually I don’t really care about my birthday. And, to be honest, why should I celebrate? Due to a restructure at work I took redundancy. This was a bit unexpected, so not the nicest birthday present. But, as I am a very positive person, this change gives me plenty of time for the family and on the other hand it is a great time to get stuck in all of those pet projects that have been neglected for far too long. So watch this space on some developments.
So what am I up to now?
Honestly, I am doing quite a few things. I started working on this book I wanted to write for ages. So if I continue with this pace I might be able to finish it by….Christmas maybe. Just kidding, hopefully a lot sooner. Then I do some freelance consulting work, including some event stuff. I have been working freelance for a long time but have neglected my cb consulting project for far too long. So I am back pitching myself as digital consultant and performance coach. Whilst doing that I scan the daily job board for any news and see whether there is a full time position to go back to. Latter is most probably what I am going to do in the long term, but for now I enjoy the freedom and flexibility I have. With the weather getting better, I enjoy the time with the boys. Juggling all that isn’t as easy as you might think it is.
Of course I work on my diet and exercise programme too. I now got the time…you might think. Actually the more smaller projects you juggle, the less time you have. On Saturday I even fitted the new kitchen tap. Only took me four hours. I am actually struggling for time to get everything done I want whilst still attend to the family. Also this week I made it to London town for two days to meet people, discuss projects and see how things are. Catching up with friends is good and it is often neglected whilst being in full time work.
So as you can see it is the new me. I am a lot more positive and full of energy than I have been for a long time. And I truly believe things happen for a reason. People you meet, you don’t meet, you miss, you hear from etc. at those moments you realise how amazing life actually is. And who your real friends are. The weather is getting better and I connect a lot more with the kids, playing and just being there when they are around. Listening to the birds, watching nature, explaining things. Perfect harmony. Could we wish for anything more in life?
I know this won’t last forever and the daily grind will (hopefully) soon catch up with me again. But wouldn’t it be nice looking back in a few months saying I got a lot of quality family time out of this break, made new friends, got lots of my todos done and lived the moment? No it’s not always the easiest to enjoy it but I surely try.
In that sense I will chill out tonight. I got a lot of plans for next week.
Have a great one.
Stop at the next flower you see, take a deep breath in, smell life and think about if you enjoy life. Take two minutes to remind yourself you are alive. Remind yourself that you are here for a reason. And that in the end everything is going to be ok. If things are not ok, it isn’t the end yet. So stay positive, live in the now and enjoy what you have!
Love and kindness,
This path has a gate at the end.
A gate to heaven?
A gate to pastures new?
To new opportunities?
Will the gate be open when we get there?
What will the path be like?
Curiosity will lead us down the path.
Uncertainty will keep us going.
Don’t look down to test the path, focus on the gate at the end. Make it your goal. You will get there.
Picture: Butcher’s Wood, Hassocks
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. ~ W. Churchill
I am not sure if this is a repetition but never mind.
We make a living by what we get: we work, we get money. We sell something we get money. We exchange things and get things we need.
But we can only make a life, bring a purpose into our lives, by giving. We give and we get given at a later stage, non material.
Isn’t that beautiful when you think about it?
In life, as in football, you won’t go far unless you know where the goalposts are. ~ Arnold H. Glasgow
You know I am not a big sports or football fan. Particularly not the latter. However, I do enjoy a good game of Basketball, watch some American Football or Rugby. Yet, mainly on twitter, I re-tweet a lot of motivational quotes related to sports.
If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there. You need the direction to focus your energy and map out your path.
If you don’t know where you are going, you at least should have some side lines where not to go, e.g. not to fall off the edge of the world.
Goalposts: they will help you to stay on your path, focus on what you like to achieve, and by doing so, score!
Simple, isn’t it?
Have a good day,
The first week back at work after being off for two weeks seems to be always hard. I eased my pain with my new “man chair” which arrived early this week.
Child benefits got cut. We opted out, despite the fact that I believe it isn’t fair. I understand that if one has above a certain earning that benefits are cut, but the way the rule works there are couples having a similar income to myself or higher (!) between them, however they still qualify for the benefits. Not fair I’d say. On top of that travel tickets to London went up b 5% whilst inflation went up b 3%. Means in my profession I just have to sell more to make up for things I suppose. Sell, sell, sell is the motto for 2013. Life is really getting more expensive by the day.
With the cold weather quite a few colleagues have been off sick. I didn’t feel too great during the week and only went running on three mornings. Got a nice massage on Saturday which helped me getting into shape. I am getting fit. I am getting somewhere. Given the awful wet weather it doesn’t come as a surprise that so many people are sick and I started feeling under the weather over the weekend. Fingers crossed I can shake it off quickly and go back to my exercise routine mid week.
R himself finally got chickenpox. So C probably gets it soon. I am glad that we finally go through it. About time as often as they have been exposed to chickenpox before Luckily R doesn’t seem to be too bothered, so all good.
Another fish I bought last week disappeared in my fish tank. Probably dead but I am surprised we didn’t find any remains, it was just gone from one day to another. Shame, a nice bulldog pleco. I think we will keep the amount of fish as they are for a while before adding more. Our barbs are growing to a nice size, so that’s a bit worrying Every time we go to SeaLife in Brighton we get reminded that some ex home fish tank fish are in this special tank – and they are big. What I am saying is that some fish just grow above and beyond the size of your home tank. So you better watch it.
Despite the illnesses, changes and stress at work, I am generally very positive for 2013. My energy is increasing and with every training session I gain more energy, feeling better. I have a good feeling for 2013. The break helped me a lot to focus on family and helped me bonding with the boys. So if I see them at the weekend or sometimes at night I am getting a lot more cuddles. Nice. Particularly this weekend, I managed to cuddle with Colin in my chair and take a nap whilst he watched TV. So that is what I call both symbiosis and productivity LOL.
On Saturday my wife cooked me a really nice meal: lamb. I love when she is spoiling me, and just what I needed after the full on week back. So it is my turn next week and with the slow cooker ordered I think I might try pulled pork or burnt ends….latter might be a bit tricky but we shall see.
Maybe one last note in respect to 2012. I found some closure with people by sending them Emails/ letter to put things from years ago behind me. I hope it answered a few open questions they might have had. They are not apologies but acknowledgements. I read “Chasing Daylight” a few years ago which gave me the inspiration to always have all open ends closed as you never know when you leave this earth and how much time you have when you do. Often people come into your life for a reason. Some never stay, others hang around for a while and some stay forever. There are reasons for that, and for loosing touch. Not sure if Facebook helps in that matter really. But I stopped being friends with everyone and anyone just because I know them. But when you look back to the good old school times, who you were friends with and who you weren’t friends with, and for how long, you realise quickly that you met some people just to help you through a phase, a problem or a period of your life. And you would be the same for other people. Life is fascinating in that respect. I probably could write one post just about that.
Guess that is all for now. A nice weekend with the family. We visited Nymans Gardens which is less than 30 minutes in the car from us, making good use of our National Trust membership already. Now back to the grindstone. Give me until mid February to settle into the running routine and starting a few new projects I keep you posted!
Life does not happen to us, it happens from us. ~ Mike Wickett
Life is not happening to us. We make things happen, we influence.
If all energy in a system equal zero, then any reaction triggers a reaction.
Like karma. Good or bad.
That means that we make life happen, we influence its cause.
Buddha bless, Volker
Actually an extraordinary week that lies behind me.
In the last few weeks my upper back flared up again. Spasm, ongoing pain etc. so I went back to the chiropractor and deep tissue massage which helped loosen it, however the pain is still there and I am back on ibuprofen
Still, I felt like running on Monday. In the night of Monday I pulled a muscle in my lower back lifting R out of his cot. Again. I haven’t had any problems for the past year but it came back. I feel like I am falling apart, pain, limited movement. That was then paired with a very unsatisfying week at work. I don’t get many of those but this week was just not right. Luckily it passed very quickly.
Weeks like these are very tiring. In particular if you don’t sleep either. The boys are ill, the MIL is around, you are out of your routine. Having said that, my MIL gave us lots of space and my wife a well deserved daily lie in. And, the diner we had last Sunday was fantastic. We got live folk music, good food and a few drinks. Just a shame it was a Sunday.
Every time I let myself down a bit thinking what is happening with my body, my ambitions, the downward spiral opens up widely. You see the hurricane in the US and you think you ain’t that bad off. You are alive and breathing. You get on with it. You know what I mean. You are a wonder in yourself. You might not remember how weak and small you were, naked, helpless in your mother’s arms. We came a long way. We are breathing. I can feel my heart beating. I am going to be ok.
The downward spiral then closes. The sun comes up and you give yourself a big kick up the bum. There were positive things this week too. Some really good chats with friends. I found out one got engaged, so another wedding to look forward to. Another just made a big decision re his future too.
And I think after my wife had 27 folk, 18 of which were kids, around for a hallowe’en party, we can consciously make the decision that two kids are enough. I get asked this question weekly. We would love a bigger family but we would have to start all over again. My wife had some trouble with the second pregnancy, so we don’t want to push our luck. Yes it would be nice to have another bundle of joy. But the sleepless nights, dirty nappies, costs etc. I don’t think we should or will for that matter. Life is just getting a bit better and easier again.
To change the topic a bit. The poppy appeal kicked off big time this week. For my German friends these are the red poppies everyone is wearing on their jackets and we remove them on Remembrance day. We pay around a pound for a poppy, often more, we donate it for the heroes that gave their life in the wars. For us. For peace. For freedom. For Britain and the world. A nice gesture. We are giving things back to the ones that gave for us. For generations. Growing up in Germany people didn’t show much appreciation to their military. I appreciate countries that do. In America as far as I understand it a soldier in uniform who eats in a restaurant never pays his bill. Someone would pick it up for him.
Appreciating where you coming from and what you have. How often does a broken back let you down, the pain in your leg, the ever annoying struggle to sort the most basic things? The imperfection of others.
Stop a minute. I got breakfast bought this week. I bought a few drinks. I showed appreciation, I was shown appreciation. Life gives you back what you give. Full circle. Live!
And on Sunday the whole family went to fireworks and bonfire. I am alive. I am breathing. My family loves me. I am going to be ok.
Have a fantastic week and watch after yourself.
What a fantastic week. At least I like to think so.
Sitting here, thinking what to write, I can only sum this week up as being very good for networking, meeting old and new friends, catching up with industry and non industry peers, and on Friday I managed to take Colin to school for the first time since we moved. Summary over.
C was asking for me all week, as I was hardly home. Then come Saturday he would not go out with me. The car didn’t start, new battery needed, and I took the train to go shopping for yet another cheese fondue. But he wouldn’t come. Later we went to the airport to pick up my MIL but he didn’t like to come until my wife came along, and boy did we have fun at the airport: the train between the terminals, escalators, the lot.
In reality the week was a bit different to the summary. It was a lot of hard work, yes some jollies, a conference (IAB ENGAGE) and watching Game of Thrones with my wife at night. Still recovering from my cold, I wasn’t feeling too great until about Thursday. So I was glad that on Friday I managed to work from home in order to catch up with the family, some tasks and admin from work. What I really like about working from home is that you actually get a lot of reading and catching up done whilst still being more productive than in the office. Of course that’s only the case if Outlook doesn’t strike.
Yesterday my MIL arrived. Luckily I get along fine with her, and it allows my wife and I to go out tonight for a meal. Instead of anything overly fancy, she decided to visit a famous gastro pub in Ditchlings. Why not. I will publish this probably whilst I am out and about, so will update you on twitter or Facebook accordingly.
On Friday night we had our neighbours over. A retired regional football star and his wife. A fantastic enjoyable night over a few glasses of wine and beer as well as excellent cheese. I enjoy those evenings at home, particularly now that it gets colder at night.
Whilst we don’t have a log fire yet, it seems to be very cosy nevertheless. With increasing energy prices this of course isn’t too great to have the heating on full, but what should you do?
I got cosy in life too, set in my ways, lots of booze, fun and sleep over the last few months. From Monday I want to go running again in order to get fit and healthy. If you believe it or not, my back is still a bit sore. I treated myself to a deep tissue massage and chiropractor visit this weekend. Good call. My body seems to respond to it better than to shiatsu, so I am back in two weeks.
Whilst typing this sitting at the kitchen table with a glass of wine, my 2 year old climbs on the chair opposite me and laughs. Moments like these are priceless. I love my little family. Tiring but so much fun! Part of me cannot wait for them being older while the another part wants to stop time in their tracks.
Anyway, no need to get sentimental. Life is as it is. You need to accept it, and make the most of it. Live it to the max and also live it to the best of your knowledge. What I mean is healthy and consciously.
I love my life, I love living. I love pushing myself, I like making dents.
I am regaining energy as we speak, roll on 5 am on Monday!
Have a great week,
and don’t get too cosy!