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This book is not for a novice to NLP who think that one could read this book and all your motivation comes true and you know NLP. However, for the experienced practitioner/master practitioner, this book gives a good example of case studies and how to use NLP in a “world context”. Almost too basic for the Master Practitioner it still gives a good overview and idea, or reminds you of topics you should reread, such as sensory acuity.
Me personally, I liked the book. Gives it great examples of sales and negotiation techniques based on NLP and other tools/techniques. The “wow” factor was there, the “I need to revisit that chapter” factor was there, so overall, a very good book to read.
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Inspired by the book I am reading Turning Passions into Profit – 3 Steps to Wealth and Power and my NLP Master Practitioner with Sensory Systems in Glasgow, I revisited the term of “sensory acuity” today.
Christopher Howard writes about the importance of sensory acuity as people with outstanding communication skills are able to notice things in their sensory awareness that others do not. Being able to notice on all levels of senses gives you an advantage and the ability to notice things that most people don’t even realise exist. It will unlock your potential to create the results you desire in your interpersonal communication.
Which senses are we speaking about:
* sight – visual sense
* sound – auditory sense
* feelings – kinesthetic sense
* smell – olfactory sense
* taste – gustatory sense
And, what impressed me with Howard is that he differentiates, as a true NLP professional, between the inner and the outer world. Depending on our models we perceive the world differently. Being aware of the different senses and being able to read (and write) them, will make us better communicators.
NLP has the model of input (senses) that then “relate and compute” (pattern/map) into output (behaviour). We also add the “feed-forward”, a prediction what will happen in the world. And, all of that is put back into a feedback loop to how we perceive the world and being “sensory acute” about it.
Our internal voice is referred to as “audio digital” input rather than the audio sense, analog, of the external world.
How is that useful?
We can use those senses for goal setting by visualising an outcome and then put that picture in our head. And, it will feel good and you might want to imagine a certain smell, taste or music with it. You can talk to yourself as well and really get a goal into your head. A vision! This vision can be turned into a nice state of mind and something to look forward to. It will sink into your unconscious and your actions will be working towards that goal and objective.
Also, another example, would be if you remember a certain situation. Your last holiday on the beach? You remember the sound of the waves, the smell of the sea and the image….. Don’t you remember the good old time when you turn the radio on and they play a song that you have not heard for ages and it reminds you of your “wild days”?
You remember I was writing about this NLP book I got at the train station.
I now finished it. The author is: Lindsey Agness, Change your LIfe with NLP. Why am I happy to reveal the book now? Because I want to warn anyone to read it.
Sorry, Lindsey, I don’t wanna say you did not have good intentions to write this book. But, this book talks about how NLP helped you through relationships and how it helped your kids to anchor nice situations and being less afraid. My personal opinion is that you should have written a book about “how NLP helped me” and then recommended some really good books on NLP.
Anyone who asks me about a nice introduction to NLP I recommend this NLP book by O’Connor and Seymour.
Of course, maybe I am not the target audience having a Master Practitioner in NLP for over 5 years. And yes, Lindsey’s book was a nice recap of some techniques, but sorry, it was not a good introduction to NLP. Maybe it was not intended to be one and just a marketing tool to attract people to your courses?
What really annoys me about books like this and many others (and I know there are millions of them out there) is that people read it and think “wow I can change my life and all I have to do is to learn NLP”.
Learn NLP because you are interested on how you can change your life and that of others but do not learn NLP because you have some problems. If you have some problems go and see a doctor or psychiatrist. That is what you need and not something that was an add-on to psycho therapy in the 70ies. NLP does not heal you from cancer or makes you a better person. However, some NLP techniques are helpful for motivational purposes and for getting on with life.
Enough of a rand about those NLP books that just try to tell you that NLP is good for anything. Saw another one at WH Smith the other day. Don’t buy it!!!
Further on my reading list is a book I bought about 1 year ago. I admit, it is another “guru” book but comes highly recommended by a friend. I let you know how I get along. The title is:
I have written a lot about NLP before. And, as most people know, I did my Master Practitioner in NLP in 2003, which is now unbelievable 5 years ago.
Often, I wonder how much I have incorporated NLP in my daily life, my daily thinking and how much it has affected my work and life. I come to the conclusion that it probably has but I that I have not had this “wow effect” which changed my life and made me that “super hero”. I don’t even think NLP does that. My changes and my help from NLP were suttle. They came slowly and they last.
Now, a few weeks ago, I was waiting for a train and didn’t have a magazine or book with me. So I went into WHSmith to see what was available. I bought a book about NLP, “change your life with NLP”.
To be honest, I am very very curious of reading this book. Deliberately I am not naming the author because it seems to be one of those books that have been written on the back of really good NLP books. This one made it to the shelf for the masses and will tell you that “if you put your mind to it, you can achieve what you are set out to achieve”. Believe in your abilities and things come through.
And, they will. We know it. I know it. You know it, everyone knows it. The DOING is the problem. Taking the baby steps, setting the goal and bringing in the persistance. Having the personal coach (oneself) or A personal coach (someone else) to kick your @#* and make you take the baby steps. Or, the belief in yourself….
It has been 10 years since I gave up chain smoking. 10 years since I stopped sucking on at least 60 fags a day. NLP? Willpower? Honest answer: you set your mind to it and focus on your health. End of story. I have been smoking since. A month here, a month there, a few cigars. But never had that many again.
I let you know how I like the book and will name the author if I do like it. I am presumptious of saying “I don’t like it” – honestly, I believe it will be great to read because it will refresh my mind of what I am – and you are – capable of.
I hope you have a fantastic day!