Posts Tagged success
The FT examined commuter costs once again. It is nice to see that I am living on the edge of commuter costs vs. house prices. I guess money is not everything and our life in the South Downs is just amazing (if I may say so).
I absolutely love reading Success – and this article is about mentally tough people and what their character looks like. I am pretty darn close 😉
And this article on AEI (Artificial Emotional Intelligence) describes something mixing the tech with emotions. Or something like that. I found it researching some AI stuff and whilst a couple of years old, this article is a good read.
Hope you enjoyed it.
See you in a flash 😉
The week started off nicely after a relaxing weekend. Desperately needed. Finally, after 4 years in our house, the work started to get our driveway done. Those who know me know what that means. On the one hand it means that we got all renovation done in the house, yet started over again thanks to the wifey, but it also and foremost means that we soon can park more than one car off street. It will be practical and a feature to the house. Parking is awful in our cul-de-sac thanks to commuters and people going on holidays from Gatwick, parking their car for weeks at a time. We are now independent and Daddy can consider his mid life crisis dream. We shall see. It feels like a long journey in this place comes to an end. We made it ours.
Whilst we enduring the mild weather, we still get a bit of mud into the house. All be done by next Friday they say. Everything is going to be done some time, isn’t it. No, I am not having thoughts about dying yet, still far too early and too many dreams to finish, but we had a big presentation this week. I knew it would be done by 11.30 on Thursday. I knew that a few weeks ago. The same as I know that some other meetings, next Tuesday, next Friday etc. are coming and going. And they will be over and I will survive them. Some I have prepared better than others and some I have to shine and sell, others I just ‘attend’. My point I am trying to make, and this isn’t different to any other job I ever had, is that time doesn’t stand still. We have all the same time, 24 hours in a day to be precise, and we sometimes start with the end in mind, the task for a presentation. And as we go along the journey unfolds, and eventually we will get there. You don’t let yourself fail, do you? And if you fail, that’s good, as you learn from it. So not that failure is bad but you wouldn’t want to fail on purpose. At a presentation on Friday someone quoted Edison, not that he tried to invent the lightbulb by failing but by trying 1000 different ways. Language is beatiful, isn’t it?
Life is intense at the moment. This is due to work being busy and I am still finding my feet. But I am settling in very well, really enjoying the challenge. I finally find a bit more of a routine and seem to get things done. That’s what I like. And I enjoy being busy. This week I also managed to catch up with some friends, long overdue, which I haven’t seen for a while. That was very nice. I also managed to to do my back in. Despite having pain last week and a massage last weekend, I must have pulled a muscle in my back. Spasm whilst running and difficulties getting out of bed. Ibuprofen and a bit of rest should do the trick, but one feels unable. I find I almost got addicted to running and exercising, so not knowing what to do with myself at 5 am is difficult 😉 I pass the time, don’t get me wrong, I am actually reviewing the next productivity book at the moment, so a bit of extra time helps. Not being able to follow your passion and get that energy out of your system is difficult though. I’ll make up for it. In most areas life seems to fall into place. Exciting.
Home. That’s the place I am far away from London and work. It is not so much that I am bothered by either, but about having a physical distance to the place I spend my week at. Looking out of the living room window and seeing a lot of green, a lot of trees and being able to walk into woods or fields within 5 minutes of leaving the house is priceless. Nice clouds, lovely sunrises and sunsets. A short drive and we are at the beach. The fire in the wood stove that goes on when we are cold and the gym in the garage for my every day routine. The place I feel safe and happy, confident and relaxed. And so does my family too. Peace. Looking at recent house prices it also seems as if we gained a bit on the house over the years, which of course doesn’t really matter. We are here to stay.
Yet, with the nights getting longer, and it getting darker and colder outside, it is nice to sit down, relax and reflect. Where has my journey taking me? Where have I been coming from? What have I learned? I am content. Happy.
From my little corner of this world, I wish you a nice autumn and relaxing weekends. Not long before Christmas now.
Before I have some thoughts on the New Year, let me have another quick look back at the past week as I found things, mainly the weather, a bit fascinating yet crazy. We had a few storms, a few travel disruptions and flooding in this country. We then had the most beautiful day for a walk, cold and sunny, on Boxing Day when the whole family went for a walk at Wakehurst Place, National Trust. Then more rain, travel disruptions, floods. Luckily we stayed put yet both my MIL and my parents had to travel and luckily got safely to their destinations.
I enjoyed Christmas. Not many presents for me really, yet the biggest one of all: Love and Happiness in my childrens’ eyes opening their presents. And then lots of play time with my dad and kids: hot wheels are actually quite cool 🙂 We had a fantastic time as a family, an enjoyable Christmas, too much food and too much booze yet a good time. And, as they say, that is all what matters in our age, Christmas is for the kids. This is so true: Colin was amazed how Santa got all the presents inside the house and looked suspiciously at the carrot we left for the reindeer, and how it was bitten off the next day. Nothing beats a child’s innocence. Bless.
Looking back over the years I can see how much more important others become for me, and this is of course particularly true for my own kids. Something that gives you a different purpose in life, a different outlook of what life is all about.
Going into 2014 I have some hopes and thoughts. I guess one is based on a big present we got recently, allowing us to do some refurbishment on the house. My wife and I are quite excited to sort out some much wanted work downstairs, making it a proper home. It will hopefully be done before Easter. Leading on from that, I think we have done enough work on the house, yet pending one or two other things, we might be lucky enough to do some more work on the house or outside next year. Nothing major, yet it would be nice to get a few more things done. This could go in line with me fulfilling myself a small dream I had for a while, so keep your fingers and toes crossed.
I look forward to finding some inner peace next year. This particularly means one thing for me: time with the family, quality time and me being with them in the moment. Whilst at the same time this means to focus on a physical challenge and make 2014 my best ever “athletic year”. After having lost almost 10 kg this year, suffered from a cold and cough (and still do as of today) for the past 3 months without exercising, I am eager to get going and build up core strength, endurance and sign myself up for a challenge. One I consider is the bike race across the South Downs with the British Heart Foundation. Probably doing the 35 miles and then the 100 miles a year later. I am still a novice biker really.
Plus there are some walking endurance challenges I consider, and maybe we find something as a family or I find a way of pushing myself, training with the kids. Stay tuned as I want this to happen. I am almost desperate to give next year: both my time for charity, with the help of my fitness raising money to make a difference for a charity, and of course being involved in events with Rotary and potentially another charitable organisation.
What else is there to come? I believe I will grow stronger within my job and get more involved in the industry. I have an aspiration to succeed, and this is supported through some coaching sessions I am taking at the moment. I am excited about constantly improving myself to do well: both in a job and being better in my private life too.
Let me wish you all a Happy 2014, success, health, peace, freedom and love.
I finish with Confucius:
The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.
All the best,
We are what we think.
You are what you make yourself think. Failure or success.
Always remember that!
Love and Kindness,
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. ~ Thomas Edison
Quite frankly, can you fail?
I don’t believe you can. You can only ever learn from your mistakes, and as long as you do that, you cannot fail.
Edison tried a lot of ways and eliminated a lot of solutions until he found what worked.
Don’t give up.
Believe in yourself.
Patience and persistence will lead to success.
Have a great day,
Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals. ~ Jim Rohn
Everyone, or most people, want to have success in life. Of course, one wants to be successful.
What does success mean?
It might mean a career or money for one, and it might mean healthy kids and happiness for the other. The goal = success is individually defined.
If you consistently apply the basic fundamentals, continuously do what you need to be doing, then you will have success.
Does that work?
Whenever you hear that someone else has been successful, rejoice. Always practice rejoicing for others–whether your friend or your enemy. If you cannot practice rejoicing, no matter how long you live, you will not be happy.
– Lama Zopa Rinpoche, “Transforming Problems Into Happiness”
You know when you hear about your friend’s promotion? His success he worked so hard for? When he wins the lottery or inherits so much money to pay off the mortgage? Or the guy who just did things right and ended up with a job that ticks all boxes for him … and it would for you? The one with the great family and healthy kids?
Listing this I notice a lot are money dependent. However, that is not really the point. Whenever someone has success, that could be money but even a promotion or achievement like running a marathon, don’t get envy. Rejoice. Practice to feel happy for others. Be happy for your enemy, competitor, and friend.
You will never gain happiness yourself if you cannot be happy for others.
Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become. ~ Jim Rohn
After last week’s classic quote this one is a classic for those involved in personal development. If you want to achieve something, maybe you want to try to visualise the position you are after.
And instead of thinking of what you need to do to get there from your current position, think differently: imagine you are already in the position you want to be, look back, and think how you got there.
Don’t pursue what you want to become, be already what you want to become and attract what you need in order to achieve it.
Give it a go!