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Sunday Column (456)

Is it Sunday again? This week flew past. Literally. I enjoy flying somewhat, but as you know, long distance flights and change of sleeping and training patterns, I am not a fan of. I flew out to New York last Sunday. A packed plane. Not a week long trip like last spring, but this time it was a breakfast meeting with my new boss, team meetings, team social, team meetings and flight home. It could have been any city I stayed in. Home, taxi, plane, taxi, hotel, walk/taxi, office, taxi, plane, home. But it was New York, and it has its charm. I love NY. Seriously, this could be a city to live in. I was back early Wednesday, and the flight back was a bit bumpy. It was a good trip, and it feels like I am now where I wanted to be when I was a freshener at university: high jetting lifestyle.

That was then, in terms of objectives. What is now, is different. It took me all summer to finally go on a bike ride with my eldest last weekend. Bad excuses and not wanting to disappoint my youngest who still hasn’t managed to learn cycling. That is due to a muscle underdevelopment challenge he has. Nothing to worry about, but strength and muscle build up are difficult for him. Anyway, just going out and doing that bike ride felt good. No more excuses. On Sunday we did his homework together and my youngest won with a huge advantage in Monopoly. With my constant travel, and it isn’t as glamorous as I thought as a freshener, I want to make the most out of my time with the boys. Yet, at the same time, I need to carve out enough recovery time for myself too. It is that balance where I am still struggling and trying to find the right way of dealing with it. But I am getting better I believe.

No, in all honesty, I do not enjoy the weekly travel. It should get less now but I keep saying that for a few weeks now. Normally it is just one night a week, sometimes two. And that is ok, and particularly if it isn’t every week. Even New York was only two nights. For me, who works on a running and my new weight training routine and trying to improve my fitness, the constant travel makes it more challenging; this is particularly true as I overworked the scar on my back from the minor surgery I had a couple of weeks ago; I am now listening to the nurse and will stop exercising until it is healed up. Anyway, I am getting better to work around those challenges and the travel to achieve my goals, and whilst I am not shedding lots of weight, I am not gaining any at the moment either. This is a result, as muscles are heavier than fat anyway ๐Ÿ˜‰

So much about travel and routines, and about having the feeling to neglect the boys every now and then. The fine balance between allowing yourself your own time, and doing things with the boys that they enjoy more than me. I am not beating myself up here, and wouldn’t in public, but I do want to share my feelings. The dads I discussed this with and who are in a similar situation, agree. It is a fine balance, and sometimes the weekend ‘hamster wheel’ just ends up wearing you out. Birthday parties, swimming, activities and taxi services. And then the pressure to be the bread winner and be the best you can be. I love my job and enjoy the work I am doing. And without a family I most likely would end up being a work-aholic. That wouldnโ€™t work either.

Life-Life Balance is what I called it in my productivity book #BeBetter. Being able to balance your life at home with the one at work, and being a coach, mentor and trusted advisor to your spouse and children, whilst still pursuing and succeeding in a career. Living healthy on top of that and being a good husband. That is success. Either one of those could be classified as a success but you need to master all! That is key to not loosing it or loosing in life. And that’s really the content of my book, to balance the pillars of life, and making sure you are the one in the driver seat. You need to be in control of what you do and how you do it. Identifying when things like a bike ride is important or when you start a new project which is only between the boys and me. We want to make birds nesting boxes over the winter months. The shared experience and trust you build now will last a life time.

Coming back to New York, if only two days, was an experience. Once again, I fall in love with that city. It has space, you have a chance to buy cloths and food at a fraction of the price in the UK. I spilled gravy all over my jeans on the flight out and picked up (as a necessity) two Levis cheaper than buying one in the UK ๐Ÿ™‚ Amazing. Food is just great. Particularly, but not exclusively, I love the burger and wine at the gate, just before you board the 10 pm flight. Then you sleep the whole way back home. And no one makes burgers like the Americans do. As a matter of fact I did sleep almost 5 hours on the flight back. The city just speaks to you, it attracts you, it is full of differences and great architecture. I love New York, you are just very special.

The trip was great. Getting the right heads together to discuss what is happening with our company moving forward. It feels good to be part of creating something bigger and amazing. Our ecosystem is ready for what there is to come. Or is it? I am not sure if I felt the jet lag or not, or if I just went with the flow, or I am just super excited, but the trip was great. Maybe it was to short to really get jet lagged. I will look back at this time in years to come to kick off something big, something industry changing. Isnโ€™t that exciting?

America. Its service culture, its multi-culture, its burgers, its finger food, pool and bowling. I am going to miss you. Always will. Ever since I lived with you over 25 years ago, I have the urge to spend more time with you. Thatโ€™s just the way it will always be. And I will be back.

Have a great week ahead, I am off to Germany tomorrow, not quite so exciting at all, and the flight is a lot shorter too ๐Ÿ˜‰ No burgers at the gate for me, it is time to shed more weight.

Cheers,
Volker

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Sunday Column (443)

You know the opening line? Maybe slightly different this week. My last Easyjet flight for a while. No, I wasn’t fed up too much with them, almost accepting the standard hour long delay on a Monday/Tuesday morning, but they changed their flight schedule. No more early morning flights to Hamburg. So I am back to Eurowings and BA for the next few weeks. I also did my last longer, 3 days, trip to Hamburg. Moving forward it will be a two day visit with 2 hours total commute to the airport. The joys. However, we came a long way with work in Hamburg. It has been a pleasure to guide things so far and change things accordingly. Now it is about guidance and supporting the new set up.

It is a bit of accomplishment, a bit of 7 years of Easyjet, a bit of early morning tiredness that makes me feel a bit melancholic. Seriously, it ain’t over yet. The hard work only just began, but it is the fun bit. It’s like getting your kids out of nappies, to get this annoying phase over. Then it is fun from there on, still challenging but different. And personally, I love the stage the boys are at. Different interests, different favourites, different developments. Own characters. My most favourite thing last week was on Friday night when I came home and heard that the younger one peed on the older one. The older one took it in stride, given it was in the bath. Yet when I explained to him that I was the younger one once, he as ked if I was that annoying to my older brother. Of course I was. That’s the way the younger ones are. No matter what the age difference is. And when they fight in the car for attention and ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ ways of doing things….or when the oldest says (not in the car) ‘daddy you can have a nap, we are entertaining ourselves’. They are growing up so quickly. It is great pleasure yet just not enough time with them.

We started playing Trivial Pursuit and it helps them learning a lot. So do we as parents. It is interesting to see their logic and how they put things together. I am just loving it to be a dad. And every weekend it is getting better it seems. Last weekend for instance we went to Laser World for C’s birthday and attended the local school fair. Boy was R excited to do the Maypole dance, whilst C just loved finding more cuddly toys for his bedroom. The difference to last year, letting them go at the school fair to do their own things, is immense. Giving them wings, and now it is about guidance, what to do and what not to do, yet under daddy’s protective shield and help. Just don’t fly too close to the sun. Amazing times ahead. And this weekend: a sleep over for one with mum and Beavers and Daddy time for the other. Fun and one-on-one time. So good.

The Greenfall fire, and I touched on this briefly last week, was horrible. I think it totally surprised me to see the video of one of the flats. It looked to me like all the walls and plaster boards were burnt to the ground. The glue was still on the wall, the bathtub was around and that’s about it. And of course you ask questions of why there weren’t any sprinklers or why was material used that was declared as being unsafe in other countries. And why did no one listen to the people making the council aware of these circumstances? 70+ lives I believe were claimed. Totally avoidable. It makes me furious. Totally for no reason other than profit and bureaucracy. Whoever carried the responsibility for the refurbishment, this person should go to jail. Full stop. No excuse. Shocking on top of this was an interview I saw Friday a week ago. News Night. The moderator was shaking, asking Theresa May questions and she avoided EVERY single one. No compassion, just being a politician. Wow. What has this country come to in the last few months. I am appalled. Time for change, no doubt. I never liked Corbyn but at least he seems to be human! I give May a few more weeks if that. Given Trump in the US is under investigation by the FBI, things are unravelling. Let’s continue to watch how things will unfold. Brexit negotiations started, and the negotiating party doesn’t have full control of the government. At least any Europeans that lived here for 5+ years should be allowed to stay. I am glad I got my passport, I don’t trust those promises anymore.

I finish this post early. I started my day on Wednesday at 7.30 local time (DE) in the office. So when I left the office, given I had a quick lunch, I had done 8 hours. Now I am on an almost empty flight reflecting on 3 days in Hamburg. I am tired. I did my run. It was hot. I made progress. I met friends. I didn’t sleep well. I got s* done. Yeah, that’s the way I like it, that’s the way I roll. I cannot stop, cannot just pause. A flight is a welcome time to sleep, chill out and think. A quick call with a friend from the airport, a thought about the weekend ahead, and some reading. Taxi home and some work, then seeing the wife.

Do I like it. Actually I do. I could do with more family time and less travel, but I also feel that I am needed. And that is a nice feeling, that I can help and support people who need me.

From my little corner of this world I hope you have an amazing week ahead.

Love and kindness,
Volker

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Sunday Column (64)

Another week: this one passed very quickly.

On the one hand I don’t remember seeing my office as I have been in meetings most of the week, networking events, catch ups etc. So overall a very good week.

On the other hand Colin was a really grumpy bugger. However, although I was away two nights, I managed two nights to bath him and put him to bed. That was nice and gave my wife a bit of a break as she mostly had to deal with our very grumpy baby this week.

Tuesday night was a networking event of our part of the industry that focuses on ad exchange optimisation. A small part of a small industry, the geeks of the geeks ๐Ÿ˜‰ Seriously, it was a great event and good to see so many people that work so closely with me – one way or another.

Thursday was the leaving night of a business partner, however I had to cancel it last minute as I was just to shattered. So this week was 99% work, so I don’t want to bore you with it.

Saturday we managed to re-book some flights for holidays and family trips. We also ended up buying Colin a mini pool and plastic balls to fill it with. That is for his birthday. Maybe we get him something else closer the time. We also had to shop for many birthdays and baby events, including a Christening we went to today.

Colin speaks “DAD”, “CAT” and “JA”, so he soon will speak “MUM” and “NEIN” that is for sure. His granny also got him a birthday present, a wheely bug ride on toy that looks like a ladybird. I would put some pictures on if I wasn’t so tired. I didn’t sleep much this week nor the weekend, too many things going through my head.

Anyway, let me keep it short. I cooked a lovely pork fillet meal on Saturday and we had a good bottle of wine. We enjoyed ourselves because we felt like we should. No special occasion.

Have a good week,
Volker

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