I havenâ€™t written a lot recently. I love writing, and I love sharing, but the honest truth is, there isnâ€™t much to share. Whilst I write regularly on mindfulness over at Scentered and in my monthly newsletter (SUBSCRIBE HERE), there isnâ€™t much else to share or think about.
Yet, I thought Iâ€™d give it a try. Letâ€™s see what comes to my mind. In all honesty, there are a few thoughts I had which unfortunately I couldnâ€™t share at this point in time. Teaser, I know, but I will share them as soon as they are ready. In the meantime, I wanted to update you on a few things.
Family: Ever since the boys are coming of age, grow up and I am around them so much at the moment, I seem to really understand what family actually means. I see the influence we as parents and carers have on them, and how much they need our support to grow up. But, I also see how much they support us through difficult times, as their horizon is different to ours. Whilst this sounds so super obvious, I cannot stress this enough. Over the past 12 years, since I first became a dad, I learned so much about â€˜being a dadâ€™, and â€˜what is expectedâ€™ and where to put your priorities. It has been, and still is I suppose, a process. And no one ever prepares you for becoming a dad. Letâ€™s say it didnâ€™t come as natural to me as it seemed to have done for others.
Someone mentioned a cartoon (which unfortunately I couldnâ€™t find) which showed someone time travelling from the future, asking what year it was. â€˜What, he said, 2021, you are still in year 1 of lockdown?â€™
Not encouraging, but given the current UK announcement that we might get out of it mid March, this would pretty much make it a year. A year without going to London, with business moving online. A reason I started focusing on work that I can do location independent, as the appeal of London, the appeal of living somewhere for jobs, has just worn off. I am free to go wherever I want to, wherever family is. Thatâ€™s where home is. The other day I got myself a bottle of Lagavulin and said to my wife it smells of home. She asked where it is. I still owe her the answer.
When you are in lockdown, at least for me, you evaluate everything you do and have, possess I might say. So I upgraded my desk with an ergonomic chair, a new 27 inch 4K screen and other bits and pieces. Spending 8+ hours on there, it needs to be super productive, supportive and comfortable, good for my back, shoulders and easy on my eyes. A great investment.
I also invested in an air fryer, I always wanted to try it out. As of lockdown 1.0 I started cooking more, which is also partly due to me becoming vegetarian (see earlier posts). So I cook more, try more and gain confidence in cooking. Whilst I have been exercising a lot on the treadmill, I didnâ€™t enjoy the repetitive workouts on the multi-gym I had for 3 years anymore. So I sold that on eBay and focus on kettlebell exercises again. It helps as I donâ€™t have to go into the cold garage, and we got a lot more space too. So as lockdown continues, we evaluate what we need, donâ€™t need and what we learn.
On that note, I am in the process of finishing my Diploma in counselling and cognitive behavioural therapy. It was a drag, but I enjoyed learning the content, and now being able to apply some of it with my executive and leadership clients. Whether that is in relation to stress prevention and resilience courses, leadership trainings, or as part of me coaching. I recently took on a job coaching outplacements, e.g. helping people finding jobs, which also involves me writing CVs and cover letters. That, and my skills in sales, made me an excellent headhunter, so I am doing some work in that space too. All can be done from any location, no matter how this lockdown turns out to be.
What we learned during lockdown will stay with us our whole life. I donâ€™t necessarily mean the courses, but how we approach life. Are we having a positive outlook, are we ready to tackle loneliness, are we pro-active or not? How do we cope with job loss, quiet periods, home-schooling, our partners and family? Which decisions do we make towards finances, home improvements, cars? Do we go for walks, exercise or push our limits? Do we watch Netflix and donâ€™t exercise, stuffing our face with take aways?
Lockdown hasnâ€™t been easy for anyone. I am hopeful we are on our way out, and that by Easter we are free to travel within the UK again. It must be happening, and I am confident it will. I have a few more projects I want to finish before my birthday that I cannot do myself. And, I donâ€™t want a 2nd birthday in lockdown 😉 So letâ€™s hope!
What are my asks?
My asks are for you to stay
– Mentally sound, learn to meditate, appreciate the moment and get out and get some fresh air, socialise online and stay in touch with friends
– Physically sound – exercise or at least walk, keep fit and eat healthy
– Thinking positively – there is always a silver lining, no matter how off the situation looks
If you have any challenges you cannot cope with, and you know me, give me a ring. My (virtual) door is always open to help, to support. Thatâ€™s why I like recruitment, I can actually make a positive difference to peopleâ€™s life. Thatâ€™s why I enjoy coaching. Whilst my consulting is getting really busy, I want to continue doing those two things. Helping has always been important for me.
Stay safe, this too shall pass.
Have a wonderful day. Greetings from my little corner of the world.
Love and Kindness,