Buddhist Thought: Embracing Interdependence

Interdependence is our reality, whether we accept it or not. In order to live productively within such a reality, it is better to acknowledge and work with interdependence, wholeheartedly and without resistance. This is where love and compassion come in. It is love that leads us to embrace our connectedness to others, and to participate willingly in the relations created by our interdependence. Love can melt away our defenses and our painful sense of separation. The warmth of friendship and love makes it easy for us to accept that our happiness is intimately linked to that of others. The more widely we are able to love others, the happier and more content we can feel within the relations of interdependence that are a natural part of our life.

Love is possible in all our relationships because all people want happiness. No one wants to suffer. This is true of the people we love. It is also true of those we dislike. We are all absolutely identical in this respect. I think this universal wish for happiness is something we can easily grasp intellectually. When we learn to also feel and respect this in our heart, love naturally flourishes within us.

This quote is from The Heart is Noble: Changing the World from the Inside Out by the Karmapa, Ogyen Trinley Dorje

Whilst this is one of the longer quotes I choose for my weekly column, it is a very nice one. The book isn’t available in the UK until today actually, however I found this quote through some newsletters I receive.

Interdependence: a relationship where one depends on each other. This is reality, this happens. Marriage, work colleagues, friends. Ogyen suggest to embrace and acknowledge the fact that you cannot do everything yourself. Hence, by being compassionate, loving and caring, you embrace this connectedness with others. This love forms a bond between you and others.

Now, the more you share your love, love others, respect others, and embrace the connectedness, the happier you will become. And everyone is wanting to become happy. No one wants to suffer. For this daily practise we should include both friends and enemies as the wish for happiness is universal.

Love be with you.