A man was rowing his boat upstream on a very misty morning. Suddenly, he saw another boat coming downstream, not trying to avoid him. It was coming straight at him. He shouted, “Be careful! Be careful!” but the boat came right into him, and his boat was almost sunk. The man became very angry, and began to shout at the other person, to give him a piece of his mind. But when he looked closely, he saw that there was no one in the other boat. It turned out that the boat just got loose and went downstream. All his angel vanished, and he laughed and he laughed.
– Thich Nhat Nanh, “Being Peace”
Isn’t that a funny story? I think it is fantastic.
How often, if you take a few minutes to think about it, are you just waiting for someone to come towards you. And you let them hit you, so you can be angry at them.
Think about it.
I often happen to think that if someone squeezes in the seat next to me on the train and sits half on my lap. Or someone pushing you aside in the tube. Aren’t we all waiting for these moments to get rid of our anger?
This has nothing to do with the situation or the person. It has only to do with you.
Find those moments and change your thinking. Change the way you react. Avoid the boat instead or use its energy to your advantage. Help the boat to get by without damaging your boat or path. Change the situation by changing your attitude and the way you react to it.
You will see, you become a happier, more satisfied person.