Buddhist Thoughts: Showing Feelings

This is a rather long quote I found the other day. But it reminded me of our feelings. It reminded me of our game we play of too often: pretending what we are not.

Look at children. Of course they may quarrel, but generally speaking they do not harbor ill feelings as much or as long as adults do. Most adults have the advantage of education over children, but what is the use of an education if they show a big smile while hiding negative feelings deep inside? Children don’t usually act in such a manner. If they feel angry with someone, they express it, and then it is finished. They can still play with that person the following day.

– His Holiness the Dalai Lama, “Imagine All the People”

Children are a joy. Having two of them can be daunting at times but overall the positive things outweigh any potential drawbacks.

Children however are honest, they just tell you how things are. They don’t pretend to not feel ill or to feel ill if they are not. That might of course change once they get to school 😉

As His Holiness says, all the education isn’t helping to NOT show feelings. Eating things up, not letting things out, having pent-up feelings is causing more distress than trying to let go, accept feelings and showing them. And this is true for positive as well as for negative feelings.

I believe we grown-ups too often swallow things rather than expressing things. And, I believe this leads to people being unhappy and unsatisfied.

Talk to each other. Address issues. Don’t take it personally.

Love and Kindness,
Volker