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Sunday Column (519)

Lovely people. This is the 3rd last regular column. And notice the ‘regular’ bit, I might be back 🙂 If you believe it or not, and of course given I am German and organised, I started writing most of the blog posts already. I have always done that, prepared the blog posts and just published them in advance. As far as I can remember there has been one or two occasions where I sat down Sunday night to draft and publish.

It is less the time impact that makes me stopping it. It is the refocus on other things. I am changing my life. The base stays the same, e.g. job, family, house – the stability and foundation remains the same. But I am working on other things that just need more attention.

The week started off awful – if you like – last Saturday with a delayed Southern train from Victoria after the footie. 2.5 hours for a 50 minute journey with an exhausted 9 year old. Just imagine you leave on an 8:41 train, go up to Manchester and back, and it takes you almost as long as that getting home on the final stretch from Victoria. As one tweet suggested it is Network Rail and not Southern Rail – I get it, but my contract is with Southern, and they are the ones responsible for me. My boy was good though and we had lovely company. A retired scientist that told a good story or two, and it is in those moments when you look at life from a different perspective. Or, when the wife texts that Venus is next to the Moon on the sky early mornings when she went to work.

Maybe I am a bit melancholic, sitting on a rather empty commuter train into London, I reflect on how small we are. The climate conference this week showed how much we destroy our planet. The boys are talking about settling on Mars and building the next ISS. We put up the Christmas tree as if we can cut down trees as there was no tomorrow (I know those are sustainable farmed etc. so all good 🙂 ) – the human race must change. We need to change what we eat, how we treat other people and sentiment beings and of course our planet as a whole. At the same time we got our first smart plug, not only out of convenience (to turn the lights on the above tree on and off) but also to realise how much energy you use. A smart meter has been high on the list, let’s see.

What will life look like 50 years from now. The constant change will not be stopped but will rather accelerate. Depending on our life span of 120 years, we might see the colonisation of space or the oceans. Where would you rather be? I know, the planet itself. But will we have the option?

It’s not all doom and gloom. I am more and more convinced Brexit won’t happen and some things stay the same and we might have another 10 years of a good and unchanged life here in Britain. I am hopefully of course and maybe that’s what I want to be and how I should think. I have no ambition to move to be honest and if I had to, I would of course. Wouldn’t I? I must. I must ensure that the next generation, our kids, have the best possible start to make an impact on this planet. For all the reasons above.

Those are my thoughts this week. Maybe triggered a bit by the latest Outlander episode, the cold weather and dark nights.

Have a good week, wherever you are.

Love and Kindness,
Volker

Sunday Column (277)

When one travels, the little things become important. Getting to the airport, having the same (or similar really) bacon baguette you had since flying in 2006. For over 8 years I travel for work on a regular basis. Knowing the little treats on the way is what makes the journeys more pleasant. The bar in Dusseldorf just before you board for instance is a treat. I have spent many hours discussing the world with industry peers and friends. The moment you go through security and catch the train in time to be home for the bed time story.

I often think about the greater good, about what happens in life and when and why. Looking back, why you met people you did and how some of them turn up in your life again and again. Is there a reason, a bigger purpose? I discussed human design with my wife the other day – how can evolution have created something so special. Is it carved over time? Is anything improving over time or is that a human thing? Ants have been on the planet a lot longer than humans and they never had any ambition to destroy the planet. I suppose never did we – at least not intentionally.

When you stop in your tracks and look around you and realise what you do, others do, and where you sit in relation. When you stop and think, like I do just now. What do you realise? Essentially we are all the same, very similar yet individuals. Not a new revelation. Everyone looks at life a bit different. That’s what makes us individual. I am not sure which point I am trying to make but it helps a lot if you just sometimes stop and put life into perspective. To look around and see what’s happening around you and realising you are as normal as everyone else. And to realise life is what it is, best lived in every moment.

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Looking at personal development and reading an interesting coaching book again, it seems that some people are far too focused on their environment and what others might think of them. Others are the other extreme. They don’t care whatsoever. Whilst you might have social differences, the essence is that you are in the driver’s seat to move the needle in your life to make progress, determine what you like to do and represent and do with your life. No one can make you feel a certain way, it is up to you how you feel. As any feeling created within you is down to you, no one creates a feeling for you. Does that make sense?

If you get angry at the holiday travellers going slowly through security, then this is a feeling you created not them. You decide if you want to feel angry or just let go, focus on other things. The person shouting at you because you squeeze on the tube doesn’t create a bad feeling inside you because that is what they want but that’s the way you react. And it is down to you to change your very inner behaviour.

This attitude, staying positive and accepting that you cannot change a situation, helped me this week again. Three hours delay, lack of information, taking off when the airport was about to close to arrive with little time to spare to make one of every 30 minute trains home. Made it. Just. And meeting fellow travellers, those people that touch your life, share stories of their children. One was travelling alone with four children between 2 months and 10 years from Japan to Europe a few years ago. The traveller that had an almost unnoticeable German accent living very close to me and has been in the UK for almost 20 years.

All those stories, experience and people touch our lives one way or another before they disappear. You might remember them in the future, telling a story about the delay, yet overall what are the chances of ever seeing and meeting these people again? What makes them touch you? Did I manage to make a difference this week? I would hope so, holding the queue to the airplane for two mothers to board before everyone else did. Normal, no heroism. Yet, I hope I touched a life in a positive way this week.

Life is too short to worry. I am learning to be more positive and proactive, following my gut. I am getting there. Nothing ever happens over night.

Bring it on.

Have an awesome week,
Volker