Tag: family life

Sunday Column (256)

The 9:04 train becomes a 9:14 and I see myself London bound a lot earlier than anticipated, catching a delayed train prior to my original plans. It is a rainy day today and I am reflecting a bit on the past few months. Tomorrow I start a new challenge, a few months ago I would have called it a ‘gig’ but I believe this is more. This is an exciting opportunity to evangelise, to start something new around the “2nd screen” opportunity: a new job, a career. It is about linking TV advertising, connected and unconnected TV, to your second screen: laptop, tablet, mobile. This is going to be amazing. Tomorrow morning I will start some training and of course report back next week.

I had a few days off in between jobs and will properly reflect this in a separate post later on. I enjoyed spending time with the boys, with the wife, getting involved in the daily routine and disturb it somewhat with my presence. I had one day I spend most of the day dozing on the couch, watching Monster Trucks on YouTube, only interrupted for a massage and picking up the take away from the front door. I had some me time yet never stopped engaging with my industry on Twitter, Facebook, in person, or by reading articles. I love what I do and the industry I am in. Could life be any better?

Working with my coach I have been thinking of trade offs. What if scenarios. Would I be happier working local and not having a career in London? Would I be happier moving back to London and not commute for an hour? Or what, god forbid, we were two earners living in a London flat without family, DINK (double income no kids)?

I don’t think so! If nothing else I realised over the last few months is that family is an important part in my life. It is something I truly enjoy, something that makes life worthwhile. My life is planned around it. Yet, on the other hand, career and success are important too. So my life needs to balance both, and I believe I manage quite well. Of course there is always room for improvement, but I life is good. We are making the most out of it.

I often get asked why I openly share all these thoughts in public? The reason is twofold. On the one hand it is a way for me to express myself, air myself and share my thoughts. If you disagree you don’t have to read it. The other part is about sharing my life, people can, and based on feedback they do, relate to my life, and take a thought or two into their own life. We as people have this greater unconscious. I believe we are all made out of the same material if you like, and think similar, similar basic standards. Of course there are a few exceptions. Speaking to industry peers, friends in Hassocks, family, dads, career driven people, they often have common reasoning similar to myself. Someone in the industry changed jobs recently to have more time for their family whilst other can block it out and work 24/7 regardless. I try to balance it and so do most people.


Everybody has their own twist to their purpose in life. A friend recently decided to pack a suitcase and jet off around the world. I envy him for it but at the same time he doesn’t have the same commitments I have. We keep comparing ourselves to others, yet forget people have different circumstances why they are in the position they are. Also, everyone has their own perception and conviction to live life the way they want. No one seems equal if you like. We live our life according to our needs and means. That’s really it, and to be honest not a new revelation.

The closer one lives their life in accordance with one’s values, convictions and dreams, the happier one becomes. I wouldn’t know what to do if I didn’t have about two or three hours commute in order to read, catch up on personal things, TV, blog posts, industry news etc. I wouldn’t know where to fit it in. I soon will fly more across Europe and this will be disconnected time. I cannot wait for this quality time. An hour or so of just me and my thoughts. Amazing. Yes, there might be work that needs doing but that’s fine, undisturbed time for emails and presentations.

These are my thoughts this week. Not much more to add. As promised I will fill you into more job details over the next few weeks.

Have a great week, a great February for that matter. My youngest will turn 3 already. Where has the time gone?

Love and Happiness,

Sunday Column (37)

This week I spent a lot of time with the family, and it becomes more and more important for me. Particularly since I started digesting more about Anthony Robbins’ six basic human needs. I write a post about this later on this week – it is very simple yet powerful stuff.

I think with the changes of jobs and life, e.g. the birth of Colin this year, I have a lot of things to digest and it is ongoing. It doesn’t help that I have the man-flu again and seem to have less energy overall. But, I am confident of getting there, some things just take time.

Maybe it is time for another review of being a dad? Things have changed so much. Colin is much more responsive, much more lively, eats food now and he gives so much more back. I hate it when I go to work and he is crying, looking at me. But that is life for you, unfortunately there isn’t this big lottery win so you can spend all of your day with your son. Life is odd in this way. But without work we cannot afford life and family. So it has to be done. But, it is still something I am getting used to. However, every other dad in this world has mastered it, so will I! Besides I love what I am doing, I love working and enjoy it. However, if I can afford it time wise, I work very hard whilst being at work, don’t do lunches and be very productive, but then leave on time to spend more time with the boy. This might change soon though as there are a few things coming up on the horizon that look like I might get busier.

So what did I get up to this week? Not much to be honest. I went to a summit on Tuesday about Local-Social. This was a very interesting summit and you can see the post in the blog with some thoughts.

On Wednesday I had my second last coaching session and I have the feeling that I make progress. Things get clearer and I understand my needs and objectives much better. Not 100% sure yet where that leads to but growth seems to be a mayor factor which satisfies me. That ties in with me ordering more books from Amazon about digital advertising, strategic thinking and inbound marketing.

happinessWith both the boy and me being ill – just a common cold – the weekend is rather slow going. We met a friend on Sunday and that was nice. I practised Tai Chi as we are getting closer to the end of the form. Fingers crossed for next week. Also, I went to clean up the garden for the winter and spend about 1.5 hours in the garden on Saturday. With the cold and all I felt really ill and knackered afterwards. Didn’t stop moaning all day 🙂 Then I tried the cocktail from yesterday’s blog post and I can tell you: it tastes awful!

Overall I am very happy with my life at the moment. Lots going on but that is always the case, so no rest for the wicked. But, being happy and content, and having a wonderful family, is nothing you should ignore.

Have a great week. All love and happiness to you.